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How to Design a New Year’s Resolution that Sticks

I don’t know about you, but I love a fresh start.  Times of transition, like January 1st, are symbolic and represent a new cycle. Even if you find the idea of New Year’s resolutions arbitrary (why wait to make a positive change?), there is a shift when the year changes.  The holiday season is behind us. We watch how many times we accidentally write the…

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What Happens When You Avoid Feeling Deprived?

I’m just going to put this up front. This topic is quite personal to me.  I’ve been thinking a lot about deprivation over the past year since learning more about the Enneagram personality framework. No one likes to feel deprived, but my Enneagram type (#7) finds deprivation especially challenging.  But, regardless of personality types, I have come to believe there is an ironic, unintended consequence…

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What Are You Actually Craving?

I’ve been thinking a lot about cravings lately. And not because it’s December and chocolate is everywhere I turn.  Primarily, it has come out of my recent meditation retreat experience. In my last post, What is a 10-Day Silent Meditation Retreat Like?, I explained how a key principle of Vipassana is letting go of cravings. The idea is that cravings (along with aversion and hatred)…

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What is a 10-Day Silent Meditation Retreat Like?

Well, I did it. I survived my 10-day silent meditation retreat.  In my last post, What Happens When You Stop Fighting Reality, I explained why I was going. Now I will attempt to explain how it went.  I think it’s difficult to accurately reflect what the experience felt like. But, throughout the retreat, I had flashbacks to another challenging experience of mine at the start…

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What Happens When You Stop Fighting Reality

I will be going off the grid for 10 days as I begin my first ever silent meditation retreat. To say I’m nervous would be an understatement.  I registered for this 10-day Vipassana meditation retreat back in the summer. It was on the heels of completing my 8-week Mindfulness-Based Cognitive Therapy (MBCT) program and having just learned my brain and spine MRIs were clear. After…

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Are You Showing Yourself Grace or Making an Excuse?

I’m not going to lie, I was nervous to write this post.  I knew I wanted to address the fine line between showing yourself grace and giving yourself an excuse. But, I’m still working on this issue and don’t have many answers.  And, I don’t love the phrase, “just an excuse”. But, it feels true to me nonetheless.  THE WORLD NEEDS MORE GRACE First and…

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Why Do We Resist the Messy Middle?

The middle is messy. Ever heard this term before? I think about it a lot. When you are working to change your mindset, there is an ugly middle part that pretty much no one wants to experience.  Any change can be uncomfortable, but there is something particularly tricky about challenging your limiting beliefs. This is not simply learning a new skill.  Learning a new language,…

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Are Your Comments Derailing People’s Progress?

I can’t even count the number of times I’ve heard the phrase, “but you wouldn’t eat that”. Or some version of the same idea.  Usually, it would be in reference to someone describing a meal, snack or dessert. When I worked at the university, someone would pop in to let us know the office down the hall had treats. They would see me and make…

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